Doc told him he has to write down stuff that is important, to pull over and input jobs when they come in while he is driving (he has hands free but has twice forgot he agreed to jobs when I was in the truck with him). He has to have a set routine. He has to lose weight, exercise and eat healthier. IF he doesn't want me to nag... he is to do it... other wise I have doctor's orders to NAG.
He has small vessel brain damage, enough to be causing problems but not enough to stop him from working as a hauler at this point. He sees the neurologist May 25th.
I will give Doc credit, he knows Hubby well enough that if he had said you have a type of dementia and it's the kind that lowers survivor rate, Hubby would go into denial and I would be battling daily. When Hubby went to check out, Doc held me back, he said he was surprised I caught it like I did as it is in the early stages. Which means we can slow it down. He is at a higher risk of stroke especially when he had rheumatic fever as a teenager.
I caught because I know what to watch for. Both parents and step dad had it. Hubby's grandpas had it and his Dad has it now. I first thought ADHD because he easily sidetracked ... then worried it was his heart since he had rheumatic fever. Then the migraines came back after years of not having them. The change in his personality, though slight was enough to send warning bells off. He cursed using the F word and loud enough for E's children that were playing in the pasture to hear him. That is not him and I knew it. Especially when I said something about the kids and he cursed me.
Since I just had my own brain MRI (It was good), we can be thankful it's only one of us and not both like Mother and Pop before they died or like Hubby's parents now.
I know I can't put off or let him put me off of learning to deal with the tractor. I even said something today and he started to put me off when I reminded him I have a learning disability and it takes me awhile to learn to do something. True statement as he tutored me in high school. The tractor is the only thing I need to learn to deal with this home. Finances need changed a bit and the will crap needs updated (again). We talked about getting things around for cremation also. AND were already dealing with this before these results.
Daughter 3, daughter 4 , and Son 2 know small vessel damage is dementia... they both have worked in nursing homes/ elderly care. The other 3 not so much but I am okay with that as Hubby hasn't clued in to it. He thinks vitamin deficiency or his migraines is messing with him. He can go right on thinking that... I'm okay with it. Means he is not stressing or worrying about what will come.
He did mention getting longer welding sleeves so he doesn't get burnt on his arm again on the wood stove. I wear one already when loading or cleaning the stove.
I know I need to make a list to not miss getting something done. But I've always made lists LOL
So sorry. :(ReplyDelete
I'm glad that you caught it early, and I hope that he is able to slow the progression. Does he read your blog?
Hubby does NOT read any blog nor does he do Facebook . He only reads manuals on how to do stuff.Delete
Healing sparkles headed to your husband, and you. Hilogene in Az.ReplyDelete
Thank you Hilogene, Blessings for youDelete
It's a hard phase, and it sounds like you have a very solid approach to try & deal with the future in the best way that you can.ReplyDelete
I have a couple of questions.ReplyDelete
Is this vascular dementia?
What caused this? rheumatic fever?
It is too bad this is happening, but better to be prepared.
it's under the "umbrella" of Vascular dementia. High blood pressure, rhematic fever, and borderline diabetesDelete
I'm glad you are by his side. I'm glad too that it can be slowed down. Both of you take care.ReplyDelete
How fortunate your husband is to have the benefit of your wisdom, experience and understanding. I hope you get support for your self though and that family will be there for both of you. J. P. in the U.K.ReplyDelete
Please have his dr. check his Vit B12 levels. A difficiency of that mimics dementia. My mother had rheu. fever as a toddler, and had to get the Vit B12 shots for the rest of her life. (She made it to 83!). All the best to you bothReplyDelete
Our doctor does that regularly after the age of 60. He also added Vit D and about 15 more things for him to be tested for. He already takes B complex.Delete