Thursday, September 21, 2023

I have to laugh.

 Hubby just got up to go to potty... I was thinking he was up so I went to go lay down... before I get back to the bedroom I hear him tell Charlotte to go lay down he was going back to sleep... AND HE IS already back to sleep. He has NEVER been able to go right back to sleep.

 I got her to curl up on the couch across from his chair he is sleeping in, Tucked her in since she has her nose up her butt means she is cold. I noticed Hubby has an extra blanket so I turned the furnace up 2 degrees... the front room will be 70. 

I can see the widow on the other side of E is up and outside with her dog in the dark as she has a flashlight and is following the dog with it. It's a little dog that had been her late mom's and then her late husband. 

The widow on our other side is out on her deck... H's dog is over there and she is shooing it home. He is the Amish that property comes up to the side of ours. Even though his lane is on the other road it's nothing for his kids or dogs to "visit" coming around the other pond at the other's neighbors.  

E and the kids are out doing chores, flash light all over the place. Kerosene light in the barn so the girls are milking in the back stall.  

I think about if I had lost him.  Our wills etc. need update. That phone call is for Monday as that lawyer is on vacation. Our old will would stand but still we need to update as Ohio changed the inheritance rules.   

He made a comment about I needed help to do a couple things, E pointed out in front of me that if I can't do it NOW while he is alive, means I need to change it as he wouldn't be here if he was dead. I was glad he said it before I did. 

BUT it is a fact. 

I need to be able to back the 350 (aka work truck) and back it with our small trailer and the wood wagon. 

 I need to know who to call for maintenance for that tractor. I know who does the 350, the Silverado and the zero turn lawnmower. I can call the widow to our south to find out who works on her mower for our other mower we used for spraying the lane. I would need name of good tow truck if the truck went down. 

I need to be comfortable with tractor and changing equipment Daughter 2 told me to youtube it. Daughter 4 backed that, seems both do it for household repairs even though they both rent. I can do household repairs but I don't do anything connected to propane. I have the number of appliance repair guy, son of an old classmate. 

I wouldn't need to cut my own wood as I could get scrap wood from sawmills (we have 4-6) that sell that. I would need a truck or suv to pull that wagon. If I got to car I would need to have someone deliver it to me. Might not save enough doing that. 

I need to be comfortable with running the chainsaw and wood splitter.

I would need to remove all the phone numbers off his phone and put on mine as he makes the calls to the repairs guys. 

BUT could I do the work here?  

Yes, I wouldn't raise as much garden unless I was selling it at auction (possible thought as income would drop by 25 %)That would also be a way to stay connected to community and have purpose to get out of house. Maybe grow plants for just one person and sell little sets of different plants "1 or 2 person" as I definitely didn't need 4 to 6 of each variety I got. 

But all the rest. Yes I can do it, I can age in place. He just has to quit hogging the tractor etc. LOL  


  1. Poor Hubby is exhausted. They think hey will jump right back into their regular routine but for my Hubby and friends who have had heart attacks it is a good two months of serious resting.

    I saw your question on the next post and I just have no idea what you are asking me. I have an alternative practitioner here in SC but other than that we use Hopewell Oils and a lot of Christopher's herbal formulas for what we need to treat. We do not take any prescription drugs.

    1. it was the Hopewell oils. But I will give them both.

    2. You can find Christopher's herbal formulas on Amazon. The thing I really like about them is that they do exactly what they are formulated for. Hubby takes Blood Circ daily.

  2. Learning/doing those things would be necessary too if and when the dementia progresses.

    I’m so sorry that everything is hitting you all at once like this. Hugs across the miles and prayers for strength. ElleW

  3. I think its sensible to do as you have done and make a list of things you need to get comfortable with, but also remember that neighbours, friends and family would help. You have done so much for others, I am sure that they would want to return the favour. Hope you feel better soon. Best rgds, the U.K.

  4. You can do many things and learn to be comfortable doing things you can learn. However, doing things that you will do can be tiring, bone tiring. That will lead to accidents if you persist. Please slow down if you must take over everything, or get help. Friends and family caan help. Pay if you must. Maybe you will just have to quit doing some things. As I became older, chores were not so easy to do. This realization was horrifying to me. But, it is life. I have injured myself trying to do things that I knew how to do and had done for years. But, I was tired. Be careful. Glad to hear husband is doing better.

  5. Juls, you are right to think of these things and have skills in place as well as plans. John has decided I need to learn to run the mower. He is right. Changing blades...I know I could do it but getting up and down from the ground would be a bit more difficult. I have no illusions that my children will take care of me. They are so busy in their own lives and I now understand why my Granny, and my mother now, fought so hard to stay independent and not ask for help.